I am moving to Boston. This is a big adventure for me, and you’re invited to have a front row seat.
Why Boston? Culture oozes out of its pores, it’s human-scaled, the American Revolution started there, several friends live there, and overall it’s a geeky, green, vital, and economically sound place. But beyond all the logical reasons, I just know I need to be there.
This is a great opportunity to use the Generosity Practice. Here’s what I’ve already noticed about using the practice in this transition.
Here’s what I’ve noticed already:
- When I use the Generosity Practice, I can already feel myself living in Boston. This could be very challenging otherwise, since I’m a 3-hour drive away from there. But because GP keeps me connected to a bigger game, I don’t feel alone, it’s easier to lift above my small world, and feel my Boston life as a gift to all. Somehow, this makes taking action much easier.
- It’s no accident that when I have traveled to Boston, I have enjoyed the generosity of all the AirBNB folks that I met. They have told me all about the neighborhoods, offered all kinds of friendly advice, invited me to their churches, and even suggested that I live in their home until I get settled. Whenever I use the practice, I feel the generosity of others so much more. It connects me deeply and quickly. I could feel very alone in all this. But I don’t.
- I’m asking for help. Typically, when I make big changes, I isolate and turn into a productive robot. I go go go until it’s done, which means shutting down emotionally. But this time, I’m letting myself get support from friends and family, I’m OK with getting sad and anxious sometimes, and I lean on people when I need to. With GP, my heart opens and the full range of human experience is OK with me.
- Finally, I’m being real. I’m asking the questions that are important to me, when I visit potential landlords, even if someone might find my questions too high maintenance. I tend to err on the side of being way too nice and not digging into the reality before me. With Generosity Practice, I already feel a bond with everyone I meet, and I’m not worried about stepping on their toes as much. So I ask the important questions and really get to know the apartment before I decide to live there. Sigh of relief.